You know that reccurring sex dream you have about getting it on under the stars with your partner (or, you know, Ryan Gosling)? Well we think you should totally make that a reality—the outdoors part that is. And we’re not the only ones. Expanding your sexual experiences by having sex outside the bedroom can bring you closer to your partner, teach you about what turns you on, and help you feel sexually empowered, says sex and relationship expert Emily Morse, Ph.D., co-founder of Emily & Tony.
Changing locations removes you from things in your home that stress you out and gets your adrenaline pumping, which helps you get even more aroused than usual, says Morse. And get this: Sharing feelings of excitement can help couples get connected during the experience and after. “If you have these cool experiences together, you can pull from those memories when you’re having sex at home and channel that excitement,” she says.
One thing to keep in mind: Getting it on in a new location is more about having a new thrilling experience than trying to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm, says Morse. The fact is, some women could struggle to reach the big O because they might not be focused or they are limited in the kinds of positions they can do. But don’t let that stop you. It’s definitely possible to have great sex without an orgasm, and the experience will be totally worth it. Here, 11 places you should put on your sex bucket list.
Morse says getting busy in your backyard is a great way to get all the benefits of having sex outdoors and away from home—without having to worry that you’ll get caught. Plus, you can always pitch a tent so your guy can, um, pitch a tent in private.
On the Couch
Maybe you’ve covered this base already, but did you know that the living room staple could actually help you orgasm? Morse says that stacking up the cushions under your lower back makes it more likely that you’ll reach an orgasm. Or you could lean over the side for an awesome twist on the usual doggy style.
At a Hotel
“Hotel sex is amazing because there isn’t any cleanup. You can just check in and it can be all about sex,” says Morse. She suggests getting out of your comfort zone by doing some role-playing (you’re now officially two hot strangers on vacation). If you’re looking for something a little wilder, Morse also says that sex on a private hotel balcony is super hot—you know, if it’s actually private. “No one knows you, it’s dark, you can look over the city, and you’re still close to your room.”
On the Stairs
Who knew you had this ideal sex spot in your home all along? May we recommend the standing doggie style? Bend over a few steps up from him so your parts are aligned and he can enter you without having to crouch. You can also have him recline on a step while you straddle him with your back to his chest. Use the step below for leverage so you can stay steady while thrusting. You can also have him reach around for a little extra stimulation. The two of you will never look at stairs the same way again.
At a Friend’s Place
One WH reader told us that the hottest place she’s had sex was at her friend’s apartment. Why? Because the walls were super thin and she and her boyfriend had to be “nearly silent.” She said that being really, really quiet “made everything feel so much more urgent and hot.” We couldn’t agree more.
In the Shower
Having sex in a pool or lake sounds hot, but it actually makes you more susceptible to UTIs and STDS—not to mention that chlorine can make condoms less effective. Yikes. But one safe place to get wet and wild in the shower. Think shower sex is pretty standard? Let us prove you wrong: Add some lube, a waterproof vibrator, and get creative with the tub.
At an Event
Whether it’s a wedding, a sporting event, or a big barbeque, there’s something about connecting during a public event that’s super hot, says Morse. During an outing that has enough people to let you sneak off unnoticed, find a bathroom or closet farthest away from the crowd, to lower your chances of getting caught. “After that 15 minutes together, you go back to the party with a secret that no one knows about except the two of you,” says Morse.
In Front of a Mirror
Consider this the easiest sex tweak ever. One reader told WH that doing it doggy style in front of a mirror was a huge turn on for her because she could see how into it she and her partner were.
In the Car
Erotic novelist Sabrina Lacey told WH that cars are one of her favorite public places to have sex. She recommends pulling off to the side of a not-so-busy road, pushing back the seats (or hopping into the backseat) and steaming up those windows. Another option: Both of you can get in the driver’s seat, slide it back, and straddle him while he grabs the steering wheel for extra leverage. Anyone else just gets a flashback of Kate and Leo in Titanic? (Just watch out for these car sex mishaps.)
On the Beach
Beach sex is just inherently romantic, says Morse, which can help women really get in the mood. “Women sometimes need the right atmosphere.” That said, it’s probably best to lay a towel down on the sand to prevent it from getting into tricky areas. And stick to getting busy on land, since salt water can really dry out the skin in your nether regions.
On a Plane
Don’t worry, we’re not advocating anything that an air marshal would arrest you for doing. Joining the mile high club just got a little easier. A new company located in Las Vegas called Love Cloud offers couples the chance to do the no-pants dance while flying in a private plane above the Las Vegas strip, the Hoover Dam, and Lake Meade. The plane is tricked out with a cushy red bed and heart-shaped pillows. Maybe it’s a little cheesy, but it sure beats those tiny (and germy) airplane bathrooms. The 40-minute trip will cost you about $799.
While out of the box locations are definitely a great way to spice things up and create some awesome memories, it’s important to draw the line anywhere you could get hurt, get caught, or put yourself in danger, says Morse. Another thing to avoid before getting busy someplace random: alcohol. “Try not to do it after drinking, because you put yourself more at risk of getting injured or caught,” she says.