I recently did a maternity shoot with our daughter and future son that was shot by my husband. I always loved showing my belly as it is a testament of the blessings we were given as women. To have our bodies stretch to extreme sizes, give birth and then have it look as if it never happened is truly miraculous.
I must admit in this shoot I had spouts of not feeling my beautiful self, as one would say. I am still grieving over the loss of our two kids and even though this new child is our rainbow and blessing we are sorting through so many emotions as a family.
I didn’t stop my time of change. After losing our kids I chopped my hair off and received a new boost of confidence. I prioritized things that were important and made a clear effort to remove or minimize contact with those who may be toxic to my mental well being. With all that said it took a lot for me to feel pretty in these pictures, strong next to my daughter, and confident in my deservedness of receiving our new blessing.
I then received a call criticizing my decision to show my belly in the new maternity pictures. The male opinion could not see the beauty and the struggle, but instead saw oversexualization. I felt that was extremely chauvinistic. Instead of feeling angry I felt pity in a way. Pity that this older person will rather see the oppression of women then the liberation. He in his statements would rather be comfortable with woman bodies being subjected to viewing only in the bedrooms than to be celebrated in one of the most rare and miraculous times that could ever exist.
For all of the mamas out there who are ready to celebrate their bumps do so without taking heed to the criticism. Ignore the comments of you are so big or why are you showing your stomach when it looks like that or one of my favorite comments, sarcastically speaking of course, save that type of photo for the bedroom.
Join me in saying as long as the sun is out my bump is out. Meaning as sure as the sun rises and sets I will celebrate being a woman and yet again celebrate having babies and then getting back to business. Share your bump by tagging @momsintheindustry on IG, Facebook, or Twitter . You can also leave a comment below.
Suns Out Bumps Out
Me pregnant with my first child Jocelyne-Michelle “JoMi” Elie. Photo by Veronica Campbell
Me pregnant with my second child Luc-Xavier “LX” Elie. Photo by Luc-Richard Elie